Sages True and False

So how many people claim to be sages that are true and are false? What is your image of sage? Can anyone know all the answers? Or is it simply they can puzzle out an answer to any question. Which is wiser? To invoke the thought process of the questioner to find the answer to the question. Or to give the answer to them. Is it simply the answer that is important or the knowledge to answer it? Does it matter how you figure out the answer? Full of questions on this subject not much certainity. But that is the heart of the discussion. Sometimes you don't know the question but you know the answer. And you have to figure out what the question is. In a life of questions are there ever enough answers. You must look inward to find the answers to your own questions. If you spend your days asking others you never learn yourself. Without knowledge of yourself, how do you teach your children anything. Knowledge has a cost like anything. If you buy something cheap, you may get a inferior product. Now there is a difference of cheap and inexpensive or bargain. You may learn from other people's mistakes and not make them yourself. So you have personally not paid a high price but You have not cheated the system to make it cheap. You merely used information from others and made your own decision. There is a difference between using someones elses thoughts to reaffirm your decisions and using their decisions as your own. If you choose to do the latter, it may lead to a point where you have no opinion and no concept of what you like and don't like. Sage is a person venerated for the possession of wisdom, judgment, and experience. Does the Sage know all his own answers or simply knows everyone elses answer? Would he answer the question with a question? The question I think would be "Who knows all the answers?" False Sages, people who exude confidence and abudance of wisdom, searching out people to progate their own propaganda, should be avioded. Their advice is tainted with desire and greed. They have their own agenda and you may never see it till it is too late. To sit upon a rock with the visage of snow capped mountains, and be at peace to be one with nature. To understand in the moment that their is no use for worries or anxiety. They will return but in the moment, just drink in the beauty. Feel the warmth of the sun warming you, feel the wind caressing your skin taking away the heat of the sun. In perfect balance you feel content, your breathing relaxed and you body at one with nature and the world. Try to find this moment in your life. Change the details but find the moment of balance.

Hindsight and Seeing other's mistakes

Why is it that hindsight is 20/20? And you can see everyone elses problems? That is just a fact of life that our vision is far sighted. The future is clouded so we can't see into the future. But once we are past a situation, we can see it clearly. Other people we can see clearly. Sometimes they do get too close to us, and our vision is blurred. But we never see ourselves truely. There are probably some exceptions to this rule. But those who claim that should examine what others percieve of you and see if it translates to what you see yourself. If it does than you are an exception, otherwise you are fooling yourself into believing you know yourself. You only know what you want about yourself and see only the perception of that which you desire of oneself. "If your image translates" doesn't mean that it is the exact same it means that certain points are the same and everything else is similiar. Everyone has a palette of colors to paint the world as they see it. Tradegy usually darkens the colors, while happy things brighten the colors. They may use certain shades at work and a complete different shade at home. This is all determined by what you experience. No one can tell you how to paint your world, you have to color it yourself. Your life is unwritten until you live it. People can play large roles and small roles. From the outside you may feel you are a small part of someones life but until you are out of it completely and the person feels the void the impact is unknown. You may play a pivotal moment in someones life that you meet once. Until you die, and the final score is tallied and the true highlights of your life are played, you will have no clue. Because hopefully their is a massive record out there with everything you have ever down and the impact it has had on the other people in the action. So that it can all be reviewed in the end and say"Yes this person thought he was a somewhat bad person but all these actions say differently." This strays off topic and is somewhat conterdicts the first few statements but it is true and important. No matter how well you can see or not see doesn't matter if you don't know what you are looking for. Also to
change senses, if you hear but you don't listen what is the point of hearing it. To explain if you know someone is speaking to you but you don't listen and actually know what the words are and mean. Then what is the point of hearing them.

Greed and civilization verse sharing and uncivilized

Why is it in the modern world greed is associated with the civilized world and the thought of community and sharing is with the uncivilized? Think about this in downtown Manhattan will you ever see a block party or other free community event? Yes there are events but they are money makers, or they are intended to celebrate a culture or some holiday. In rural communities, they gather for several reasons to assist the community, imagine a barn raising or the gathering of the crops. If you go into the history, you see that civilized is about a king or fiefdom, where uncivilized is the Native Americans where they hunted in groups for the community. There was no personal gain out of materialistic ideals but an honor basis. The modern world views capitalist as the utopia and communist as this warped ideal that is evil or at least unwanted. But is it that communism evil or is it the communist countries that have survived in whole the lest desirable. And here I should of first went into a different discussion first because capitalist is a social order where communism discussed here is a form of government. Socialism is the opposite social order. Modern world has set up that capitalism is congruent with a democracy and it is the will of the people. That is assuming the masses are not a bunch of idiots who are whipped into which ever frenzy is the loudest. Where socialism is associated with communism and other less desirable things. In itself, it should be the ideal social order, everyone is taken care of and everything is shared. Where it gets corrupted is when the leaders forget the basis of it and raise themselves above others. If you maintain everyone equal in motivation, status and every other way you can think of. Then the community will grow and thrive. Capitalism grows a community but also grows undesirables. Capitalism unchecked is growth for the sake of growth, making more money because you can. Where is the end? When does the amount of money meet your needs, so that you can stop increasing prices. With a stabilization of prices, you no longer need to increase wages, so your employees can afford the cost of living. This process of increasing prices is incorporated into inflation. How is more money created? How can we have a debt which is more than the worlds money a century ago? Shouldn't money be a fixed amount or how can a government make up money? We print more money and some how increase our debt each year. Who do we owe? Is there an end to what was started the first time someone decided we can make a national debt and feed into it any time we need money and it will always be there? Is it all imagination, you have a perception of money but in actuality it is all smoke and mirrors. On a loan you make payments, are there payments on the national debt or do they just borrow money to pay that so after a while because no one is really checking just forget about it? Is it inevitable that power corrupts? You limit the length of executive branch lengths but you allow the legislature to continue as long as needed? Does congress have any less power than the president as a whole? You rely on the people to vote people out of the office? You allow these people to as soon as they walk in the office to be set for life? But for some reason that is not enough? They need to be bought and paid and increase their pay when they feel it? They are representatives but more times they do not represent the majority of their population. They represent the rich and the famous. The people who have the money to run for office and win. And the best part is they barely do their job. They spend their time making sure they will be their next term. They make an appearance every once and a while. Would someone win a ticket under these campaign slogans ... Fines for congress persons who fail to vote on each issue or limit the term to two four terms like the president... or the new salary for congress minimum wage for a 40 hr work week? Would these work or would these be viewed as campaign lies and not trusted? Would the be able to whip the populace into supporting this effort? Because the capitalist world will not allow such a blatant self sacrifice. Would it lure honest people into an office of privilege or would it just worsen the corruption that is present? Will politics allow for honesty? Will the people recognize it and champion for it? Or will it be drowned out by the lies and the insults? Can the government be shaped back into what it once was? A government for the people by the people. Because without a government you will eventually fall into chaos. Government brings order. And then the government is corrupted and disorder seeps in. I sadly didn't finish this when I wrote it or shortly afterwords so I am just going to stop here.

Stress, the ability to handle it

Stress is in everyone's life. Some is external applied by others and some is internal. Internal is developed by you. This stress can be controlled just like external stress but is more difficult because it is completely mental. You can't avoid the person or thing that symbolizes or invokes the stress. You need to change the way you think about the situation which can be very difficult. Stress can be classified into two large groups which are personal and professional. Personal being anything that does not affects your work performance directly. Here I would like to ensure the meaning that is meant by directly, this is a word in my vocabulary has different meanings
depending on the situation. A further point I wonder as I write this, do all languages have certain words that having different interpretations of the definition depending on the use or is it simply
slang to do such. Directly in this application conjures a picture of a physics lesson of direct fission and indirect fission. Fission caused by neutrons given off from the original fission event and cause
fission this life cycle are called direct neutrons. But if the neutrons are from other decays beside fission and they cause fission then they are indirect fission. I point out here this is not a physics
lesson so if I am slightly off then just get the meaning and don't take it literally. So back to fission ooh wait, I mean stress. Indirect stress coming from your personal life can affect your job performance but it does not come from your job so it isn't professional stress. This is a difference that is subtle but it is big. You can't raise your job performance without fixing it but you can't fix it at work. You must be allowed the time off work to do it. If you have a job that occasionally requires long hours at the office than this can make it extremely difficult to diffuse the situation. The opposite is true also true, to resolve or fix a stress issue which is professional than you must be at work to fix it. Now to make a clear distinction here there are three ways to deal with stress in a global sense which are diffuse it, fix it or internalize it. Diffusing it is simple, you realize that it doesn't matter, you can not affect it, so there is no reason to be stressed. Internalizing it, is difficult to distinguish from diffusing. Sometimes people think they are diffusing stress until the next occurrence of the exact same stress, where instead of a normal or non reaction, there is a blowup. This is actual internalization. You put it in a box and store the stress. You can store stress for decades. You can reinforce the boxes and think they are indestructible but actually nothing is indestructible, they just haven't found what will utterly destroy them. This can be an event or chain of events. You may experience or see someone go thru this. You may never be tested but understand that you may one day before you die may be tested and wonder how would you recover. You will not know how you respond because you don't understand total destruction until you go thru it. You should ponder if you will have the willpower to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and keep walking or lay there till you die? Fixing it can be extremely difficult. You need to change your way of thinking if it is internal or the way a person acts if external. Sometimes with an external you can try to change the way you perceive the actions of another. Assuming that the next time you encounter the individual if you maintain this new thought process then you have a fix otherwise it is a diffusal. The ability to deal with stress is how you use these methods to avoid blowing up, health issues and the occasional rant and raves.

Attitude

Why are there so many ways to show attitude? Attitude is in the eye of the beholder. Some people are under the misunderstanding of that it is of the senior person because that is who matters. In a military setting, that may true but some people forget some times that they are in the military. How can you do that? It is simple you let yourself think that the constitution still applies to you and that just basic human courtesy applies. That is all thrown bodily out the front door when you join the military. So attitude serves no useful purpose if you are expressing it then you have lost control of your "cool" for lack of better word. You know the person you are showing attitude to could give a rats ass about what you think. It is about your rep, also it diffuses stress. Because the stress is still there but you have done something about it. You have shown the other person that it upset you. You have to be careful with all aspects of your appearance in respect to attitude. You may wear your hat a certain way all your life and you go somewhere that signifies a gang member or only gang members wear it that way, so everyone assumes you are in a gang. Don't judge a book by the cover. This simple saying is important. It is the basis of undercover work and espionage world wide. You don't send a white female in a business suit with a skirt in to a Muslim bath house to gather intelligence or if you want her to come out unharmed. World wide we ignore this. It is the simplest way to get into a place, look like everyone else. If you look, talk, and walk like a local you must be a local. But you miss out on so much and you leave yourself extremely vulnerable if you do this. What goes hand and hand with this is stereotypes and racism. Both have you make a judgement before it is realistic to know the factors. But not all judgments are made based on those stereotypes. Sometimes those individuals are part of that stereotype. Bigotry and racism is different. I think unless you are naive, you are at least racist. In the world we live in and human nature is to classify everything. You can't even be just an American. You must have some heritage to classify which American are you. We no longer live in the melting pot. We live in an area where you can choose to go in the melting pot or you can choose to set your own little area up that you only let your own people in. We divide ourselves and then complain when we are different.

Death and Faith

Death is the ultimate mystery. To understand any mystery you need to find answers. But there are no answers about what happens to one's soul after death. This is where faith steps in. Faith is believing in something without seeing. Feeling it in your soul, your heart and your mind. To question is natural, but when there are no answers, faith steps in to give you the answers that you will never find until the question does not matter anymore. The question does not matter when you see it yourself, because you have the truth. When faith is shaken, it may be hard to rebuild. When faith is shattered by an event, you may not know how to put the pieces back together. You may doubt how it held together at all. What joined the pieces before it was broken? Until you have that question answered, there will not be rebuilding. You may take pieces of it and use them, but they will not be whole. Death is the unknown. For some it is the merciful ending of a life of pain. Some the untimely end of a life cut short. Yet others believe that it is the step to the next. The next can be literally the next life. Next can be a paridise or heaven. Next can be a black hole to spend entirity. Next can be any form of hell you think of to try to teach youngsters the difference between good and evil. Death is the end of this life. The end of the existance that we have lived in this life. We count up the chips in front of us and turn in the chips. Some think it doesn't matter what you walk away from the table with. Others say it is all about the money. Where money can be literal dollars, or metaphorical dollars signifing karma or some such. The metaphorical dollar can be specific to a religion and you build up for the particular religion and if you don't make the minimum, you are left out the cold. Faith usually gives some hope of a next. Because without the carrot, the horse will not move foward. So why do horses move in the wild. Horses move because they are hungry and have a mind of their own. Some individuals need some exterior manisfitation of their inner voice. But it boils down to we are listening to ourselves. What is funny is that in pretty much all religions they have to acknowledge this. People have choice have independence, they have free will. If the inner voice decides not to believe then it must see the light to change that viewpoint. Everyone is entitled to their faith or individual viewpoint. All people regardless of faith or viewpoint should strive to be good. Some individuals have warped views of what is good or evil, but trust in your universe that those individuals will get their justice if they invade on your universe. You may not see it, but like all faith you won't see the truth until the question doesn't matter anymore.

Wisdom

"In seeking wisdom thou art wise; in imagining that thou hast attained it - thou art a fool." was said by Lord Chesterfield. Wisdom is knowing. The old man who will not listen to the young is the fool. Words of wisdom can be found anywhere. You may stumble upon a budding tulip full of knowledge that was not seen before on any full flower. You shall seek wisdom your entire life. You may attain knowledge of something or anything, but wisdom is ever changing and is different each time you seek it. "The older I grow the more I distrust the familiar doctrine that age brings wisdom." by H. L. Mencken. He states the simple truth. Youth may have wisdom. Age can cloud the mind from the wisdom. In the innocence of youth, truth is seen. In this you may see what is truly before you before you are told what you see. I am reminded of the movie at "First Sight" where he can not see the difference of an apple and a picture of an apple. There are two ways to look at this fact. One is that innocence has not learned to recognize lies of hits senses. The second is that youth see the world without any definition, the apple is still an apple. You may not be able to eat it but it is still an apple. If you apply this to politics, you may say that the youth will be swept into any movement that promises change and better times. It is true but as the movement gains power and shows their true colors. That same youth will better see the spots change, then the old who think they knew what was real the whole time. And so the sand of the hour glass moves on from the top to the bottom. And the youth become the old and what is new becomes old. Youth are on the cutting edge. They bring forth the thirst for knowledge. On the journey of attaining as much knowledge as possible. A sprinkling of wisdom from their life experiences trickles into the mix to flavor what the soul is. Everyone has wisdom of some sort. Simple wisdom sometimes, that some may call common sense. But should be treated as wisdom. Because when you question others wisdom of their actions, you project upon them a judgement. Unless you enjoy people judging your actions, you should minimize the judgement. Or if like so many people, you are unable to maintain a running commentary of other peoples life. Try to minimize, how much negative comments you make on others lives. You may not know the consequences of your actions.

Age, Human Nature,and History

"You are as young as you feel" Simple statement with so much power. The person who is old but has the energy and vigor of teenager, feels young so they act young. So who denies they are young but looking upon them. Now the person who worries about the future, and sits at home worrying away the time. He is the old one beyond his years. Why do people let themselves fall into the thinking that leads to the latter? We can not control the future, we can control alot of the variables of life but at what cost. You choose not to approach love until you are absolutely sure you are in love completely. Love grows with time just as it withers with time. How do predict the change? You don't it isn't a wave in the ocean set with the moon. It is a leaf upon the wind. It will catch an up current and rides the current up and up. But just like the leaf, the wind will blow itself out. And the leaf will ride the current down. But one can not talk about something they have yet to experience. So I wander back to thought that started this. Age is but a number. Interpreted by each individual several times thru their time. When you are extremely young, old can be young as 18. But as you grow older that age continues to grow with you. Somewhere along the way it reaches its peak and you start thinking of your self as old and it somehow stays relatively still. I haven't gotten pass this point so I am yet unaware where it will go after that. But age is relative to the person who speaks it and thinks it. Another thing about age is that it effects different people differently. The easiest example is the age when your hair goes grey or lose it entirely. People may look older or younger. People who are older and stay in their own little town and never venture off their street will have little world experience but they will lack the jadedness others do. The opposite is true. The young one who travels with his parent and sees the world before he is out of high school. He may depending on his experiences may extremely jaded. He might of had his eyes opened to one spectrum of human nature. The eagerness to satisfy oneself with no thought of others. And the most powerful tool in the chest of someone who embodies this human nature is lies. Lies in the form of words, facial expressions and body language. Some time these are used for good like white lies. And others the intentions are purely evil. All they want is what they need. When you see it in action you opinion can change if you don't understand the intention, you may not like what you see. But not to wander to far from the topic. Age can bring up so many discussions. Woman do not like talking about or being asked what their age is. Usually it is because they are older than they want to be and they want to feel and look young. Every once and while you will come across someone who is older then they look. They want people to think they are older are upset if people find out their real age. They are usually the ones who have experienced more than their years. It is a rare individual who can claim both groups. One who has experienced different portions of life more than their years or has gained knowledge scholarly not common sense more than their age would suggest. But in life matters they are still the young teenager worrying about the grade on his science quiz. Aimlessly wondering the world bouncing between the two persona's. Never sure which is at the core. Both discount the other but somehow fuse together to be one. Oil and water never mix but what would you call a mixture of the two. There isn't a word. It should not be possible but if you came across it would you deny it or accept it as the new truth. So what is the facade and what is reality. Now we transition into the second half. Human nature. We have touched upon it lightly in this and previous ones, because it is what all this about. This is written by a human and anything this talks about is human nature. It may not be normal human nature but it may be an abnormal human nature. Alas instead of being specific in the topic I add a vague topic to encompass the next thought process. Introvertism verse Extrovertism. Being social or tending to be alone. We have touched on this before but it is a topic that can be revisited so many times. When your grow with parents, you tend to pick up something from them. Sometimes it is only your looks, sometimes people can not tell the difference between the two except to look upon the two faces together and see which is the older. Now let examine one particular trait of people, socialism. Not a government but the act of being social and everything that goes with that. When the mother is social and the father is guarded what do the children become? Each child will have different experiences and different attachments to the parents. But could a child who is attached to his mother, grow up and have all the traits or majority of his traits. Will he realize that he is his father's son or will he think that he is two halves and not a whole. Will he spend his days trying to put two things that should not go together to make something which has no name at least that he knows. But he must understand neither of the statements are true. He is his own person with a new definition and a word that is unspoken that encompasses yourself. Some book I have read talked of having your name in the ancient language that literally means you is a powerful spell that controls the person. But without the magic it is still a strong concept. A word that when spoken encompasses you. It is slightly fantasy to really ponder on it. The book I am reading now is told from the point of view of the dragon. And they speak and teach thru mind images. When they mate they sing a song of their life. The male sings his song to the female to entice her to fly and mate with him. A song of a life is in so many stories due to the fact that at one time out of memory, writing down words was a not a thought such as the words were not a concept if you go far enough back. Sounds and pictures are what was the time's words. But we have gone to far back. We move forward slightly to the age of languages and words but before the time of the written word. Songs from bards is where history was made. And the same as then is the issue with history thru out time. The author of the history is the person who can color it as he wishes. Just as the bard choose who was the good guys and the bad guys. The historian who tries to be impartial is nothing but impartial. Because it is human nature to make a commentary. If you take down only numbers even that is your perception and understanding of what happened. Which can be correct or not? Just as it this "Modern" time the medical world comes out with what is healthly and not and it changes over time as they try to figure out what is the truth and not. In the future people will read the histories and upon their interpretation of the history and what they have been taught they will decide what is truth and what is misinterpretation. I have been wondering an extra amount in this one to see how long I can get it. But there is a trace string that circles this entry, human nature which is in the title and is extremely vague. But alas it is what makes up the entire blog, how we react to the world presented to us by our senses. I use senses because no matter if you are blind, deaf or both. You experience the world. The individual who is color blind is the luckiest because it is a minor flaw. But others would say depending on the situation the blind or deaf person is the luckier. Because out of sorrow or pain, the greatest appreciation of what you have is found. And I will end with that idea to be truly happy you need to be completely satisfied with what you have and not worry about what others have.

Disasters, pitfalls and resolution

How is it some can fall flat on their face numerous times and continue to pick themselves up and dust themselves off. This applies in numerous parts of each individuals life. In the matter of love, you can either be rejected or told that the object of your affection does not share your point of view. And there are individuals who will continue to love the individual hoping that their view will change. Others will pick themselves up out of the ashes and walk off to find the next person to capture their attention. How do they get past the loss? Is it there were not very interested or is there some hidden quality to understand what is better for both parties. The next portion of the individual's life is the career. How do individuals get fired from job after job and continue to try to find the job they can hold. This probably depends on the circumstances of how the firing is taken place and the reasoning. It is difficult to understand this when there are people who don't have the will to continue they decide to live on the streets and bum for food. But others who can build a fortune, then lose everything, and just start all over from scratch. What is the common denominator? Confidence ..... is a good quality but without a little luck and/or motivation then you will be confident without resolve or results. Resolve ........ to finish things is another trait that is common in majority, because if you let yourself become a bleeding mess and not clean yourself off and start over then you will not succeed once you falter. Motivation ..... The ability to push yourself when it is easier to just lay down and sleep the never ending sleep. The ability to pull yourself up and dust yourself off. But here I repeat myself prob in slightly different wording from a previous post, with motivation but no confidence you have no direction or control over the energy. So to continue this rambling thought we have confidence, motivation, and resolve. Like any complex thought they are multiple common denominators, so I list a few to ponder upon. And fittingly I use three, with a quote from a movie I enjoy watching "we are a tripod" basically the trio depends on each other to succeed. Thus the three traits depend on each other at the end of the day to complete the task successfully and timely. But life is full of pitfalls and disasters. You must cross each bridge in your life as you cross it. It may be a rickety rope bridge very difficult to cross to the Brooklyn bridge time tested over decades. You must ensure you are prepared for the experience and ensure afterwards you take something from it. Because if you experience something and take nothing from it you will limit your growth and eventually figure out you have missed the most important thing about life. You must live life. So have the resolve to go and do something different and regardless of the outcome, learn something from the experience.

Companions, Trips, Destinations

"Enjoy the trip" Why is it your supposed to enjoy the trip or journey? The whole point of it usually is to get from point a to point b. Enjoy the scenery when all you want to do is get there and be with the people that are there. Is it you haven't found a companion worth enjoying or sharing the trip with? And now apply this to life. Birth is the start of the journey, death the end of the journey. It is the opinion of most people of many different cultures that you should have a companion of some sort. But if you are zoned out or concentrating on navigating the journey can you see the convergence of someone else's path with yours as a crossing vice an actual joining of the two paths? If you are confused with what your path is can you tell if anyone is following a similar trail? So many questions, and so few answers. Because the answers are within and only revealed under intense scrutiny. But how can you look inward when you are constantly distracted by the world and moving down any trail let alone the correct one or the one that will lead you to a companion. You are lost in the woods with no idea of where you are. You become reactive instead of being proactive. You can sometimes hide the real truth to others but internally it is more difficult to lie to. But as I say this I think that is not totally true for every person? Some people trick themselves very easily into the group think and their reality of themselves becomes warped. No longer their reality but that reality their told to believe. Group should hold no minimum number. Group as referred to here can be two people(IE yourself and the person defining the group think.) Ensure you do not fall into the trap of the one setting the thought of the group. Then your own view will be warped because you will eventually see it for what it is a reflection of yourself. With an independent view that is colored but not defined by others you find yourself. You are able to say what you want and where you want to go. Eventually you will be able to look around and understand your path and the paths around you. But it takes time and like any journey it sometimes involves back tracking to find the correct path. Or sliding from one path to another. It may be an accident. You may believe that you may need to get back to the point you were to continue the journey. Or it may a welcome surprise and you may end closer to your destination than you think. So each time your life throws the proverbial curve ball, you most reexamine where you are, where you want to be, what surrounds you at the moment. "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." from Ferris Bueller's Day Off. It says so much in a small statement. "Stop and smell the roses" comes to mind also. So in ending, I would like to thank technology for the helping hand it can be in this day and age. Some people look at it as a crutch because it is but it is such a wonderful crutch. Which when used properly can produce many wonderful things. This was written on my IPhone last night then emailed to my laptop to finish and proofread. The Internet added a couple helpful hints, specifically the movie quote, because the brain can remember alot but not everything. And sometimes it twists the truth into a memory that is easier or more pleasant. So thank you technology.

Anonymity and Secrets

Anonymity is meant to protect the author. From harm, from rejection. To aviod the hate that might be expressed due to truth or the interpetion of the truth. But it creates secrets, which do the same. The weird part of secrets is that they eat away at you until you share it with some one. Usually you reveal it to the wrong person or inadequately express the need for secrecy. But in the midst of revealing it your share a piece of who you are to the people you trust. In that trust you hope that you placed it with someone you can trust. But I guess the expelling of thoughts can sometimes dry out before you are actually bored with expelling the thoughts. So I here I leave you with this final thought "Anonymity only misdirects the harm, rejection or hate, It is still there. "

Love Portion of Beauty and Love

So this is the second half of the last post it was going to be a separate post but I left Love on the last post. "Love is Blind" There is so many ways to take this simple statement. The fact that beauty is in the eye of beholder. That the beholder if truly in love will not to be able to see the flaws in the object of the affection. But there is a different way to take it. This second take explains why stalkers exist, why people do very harmful things to people they love. Love is blind, it is unable to see the negative things you do to the ones they love. This can range from the truth to the person or physical harm. But on the flip side. People can ask questions they know they wont like the truth. And usually will be upset by the answer, if the one they love answers with the truth. I am not talking about messing around or anything negative or bad. I am speaking of the questions which are opinions, where there should be no right answer or wrong answer. The other situation this applies to is when loved ones dont speak the truth to their partners they speak what the other wants to hear. This leads to misunderstanding. When one partner wants the other to be a mind reader and understand the undertone of what is being said. I use partner and not woman or man in these statements for a couple reasons. Sometimes what is typical from a man can come from a woman and vice versa. The typical statements that "Men say the truth and woman just ingnore what they say and read their actions. And men do not go by what they do but what they say." can have the roles easily reversed. So people need to understand what people say and what they do and hope that what they deduce is the intended response. Because sadly it is human nature to do things to provoke a response.

Beauty and Love

"Beauty is only skin deep." It is a statement that is said too often but not fully understood. Beauty if defined by the physical attraction is only skin deep. But if Beauty is the complete attraction to a women, then Beauty starts at the skin. It can grow from the inside but it can be hard. Is it shallow to want to be physically attracted to the person you plan to spend your whole life with or is it simply practical. Woman want to feel beautiful but they and some men do not understand the first statement. Beauty defined as a physical attraction is skin deep. But when they ask their men how they look in a new outfit, they expect the right answer and they expect it to be the truth. How do you answer questions like that if you are not physically attracted to the person. If a person looks for beauty on the surface before trying to get into a relationship to find they are compatible, is that being shallow. You need to look deeper than the skin because unless you actually look, you might get involved with someone who you enjoy looking at but cant stand being around for any amount of time. So it leads to the question, is there someone out there that can fit the description of being physically attracted to you and can actually enjoy your company.

Motivation

Why is it so hard to find the motivation to do something or anything sometimes? The motivation to choose what to do. Why is it so simple to sit and do nothing. To plod along on the same path doing the same old same old. Not figuring out what actually brings joy to your life, but simply passing the time until something finds you. Afraid to venture forth into the unknown. Until you wonder into the unknown and are surrounded by the unknown. Blind of emotions, unable to understand what to do. How to navigate life without the ability to find a bearing of your life. To have your life flipped upside down and not know what is up and what is down. To figure out what is up and down relative to where you are but to doubt where you are and what was up and down before you got flipped. To have the basis of your past life twisted to be unable to return to what you knew. To know that the past wasnt good but not completely horrible. But unable to piece together the good pieces and pick out the bad pieces. So motivation to write this, alas not motivation but the emptying of the built up. Motivation is a fickle friend. It can depart you in a moment or it can stay with you forever. Energy plays in the equation too. With motivation but no energy, you do little or you do it poorly. If you have energy but not motivation, you can do stuff but cant decide what to do with that energy.