Reality

Virtual reality is a simulation of reality. The movie "Inception" delves into the discussion of reality. Different religions have different views on what reality is. In the movie, they go into dream or coma states which can be linked together. They have devices to tell them they are in a dream state. So that they can delve in without the fear of knowing if they are in a dream or in reality. The main character loses his ability to tell when he is in a dream. My understanding of the movie is that they intend you to believe at the end of the movie that he has been in his dream the whole time and none of the movie took place in reality. I don't know which religion specifically says that this life is a dream. I could also be remembering cult believe systems also. The concept of what reality is a difficult one. It is different for each person. Reality is the quality or state of being real. But one needs to define real because quality and state are not being disputed. They are agreed upon constants in the definition. Real is of or relating to fixed, permanent, or immovable things (as lands or tenements). Also it is not artificial, fraudulent, or illusory. So a person's reality is defined by their perception and conclusions based on those conclusions until refuted by something. This is fixed and permanent as any building. But just like any building, a hurricane can wipe it off the face of earth with little evidence it was there. Artificial, fraudulent, or illusory are harder to prove. The people around them will say they are deluding themselves. Which is true. But as the building is unmovable by the lone man, the man with a bulldozer moves the building. That is why I defined the reality including the clause of until refuted by outside sources. Because a person just like society in general will believe things until they are proven otherwise changing reality. The world was flat until they realized that stars were spinning in a circle. It was proven more concretely later when they trans-versed the world, and even more when they went into space. This like so many things are based on conclusions of our perceptions. An individuals reality should also be treated with the same rules. It is unmovable with small things but with larger things it can shift drastically. There are individuals that their reality is not as fixed or based more on other people's perceptions and conclusions. These individuals doubt their own conclusions and perceptions. Sometimes it is because they do not match up to the society's definition of what is right. Or at least his perception of what he thinks society wants him to think. This defines his behavior and personality. The other option is that an individual has impacted him so significantly that it has warped his perception and he no longer feels it is correct. Both cases are not the best way to live life. It will take lots of inner review. They need to untangle the jumble between outside inputs and internal conclusions. This will be a difficult and winding journey.

Searching for Normal

Why do people search for normal? Why do people not realize that what they do can be normal? Normal is what you regularly do. So if you stick with your values and react to each situation without or with minimal outside influence, then your reaction is normal. It is an ever changing thing, just like you are an ever developing person. Social stereotypes and the populace in general like to have a normal which applies to everyone. So that if you do not fit yourself in their cookie cutter mold, then you are not normal. Also if you do not see yourself like you see the rest of the world, then you will not feel normal. Even though you are constantly reminded by friends and family that you are normal and what you are going thru is normal. The fact is that you can not see yourself properly. You can decide what you see and feel is accurate enough but in the end, you are too close to the subject matter. Other issues include the standard you set for yourself may be higher then you set for others. This is extremely frequent in perfectionist. You set yourself up for failure when you do this. You consider yourself an utter failure and minimize or diminish those successes in your life. You are unable to see or concentrate on the positive about yourself. You may be able to see positive of others and be a problem solver for others, but you can identify all you problems in great length, but in the end you feel that the list of problems is overwhelming and unable to correct. You must put aside these feelings and tackle each problem one at a time. In the end the problems will be corrected and you will be a better person. The process of changing from negative thinking to positive thinking is a hard and difficult process. There are many roadblocks and obstacles in the journey. The first and foremost is the fact that negative thinking is self propagating. The more you have them, the more you think yourself worthless and feed the negative thoughts. Newton's First law of motion which states "Every body remains in a state of rest or uniform motion (constant velocity) unless it is acted upon by an external unbalanced force." applies here. A body at rest will stay at rest. A body in motion will remain in motion until acted upon by an external force. How this applies is this, if you are sitting with negative thoughts, you are continuing you journey to negative life. When you decide to change your thoughts to positive you need to overcome the negative thoughts in your life to start proceeding in the positive direction. Once you have yourself on the positive swing, negative thoughts will try to reverse your direction and propagate more negative thinking if allowed. Positive thinking has its own awards. You will have energy to do stuff, have confidence in what you do, and be happy. But it can be a long road in between the two. Normal is what you make it. So believe your normal and think positively and you will live a happier more complete life.

Sex

What attributes do you look for in the person you want to have sex with? Is experience a determining factor? I think it should boil down to a few things. The first is how the person interacts with other people in general. I can't put a term to this quality because I am educated by experience not proper schooling. To take a slice of the general that most people would think of, I am speaking of the interaction of whose needs come first. Is the person more worried about others comfort then their own or are they worried about themselves. In sex if the person is more worried about satisfying themselves, most likely the other party will not be satisfied leaving the partner wanting. But on the flip side, if the individual devotes the experience to the other person and finds joy from the interaction their sexual experience will be more enjoyable. The second I will discuss is another thought vice quality. It either can be described in two ways, is the person satisfied with his performance or do they always strive for perfection or just bettering themselves never satisfied with the status quo. Or does the person always strive to know more? Either case the sexual experience will build each time as they strive to increase the sexual pleasures of their partner each time. This leads into another thought, Does the person need to be shown or taught? Or does the person continue trying until he gets it correct? Yes, there will be situations that specific instruction is required, but in general which is the rule? This has the flip side, does the person enjoy receiving or giving instruction. These last two have to be taken into consideration together. They play off each other. Physical beauty should be a consideration and is a inhibitor on the most basic level. But more times then not some individuals live a life that ignores this to relieve this desire. This is only a few of the basic thoughts that should be considered.

Lonely

Why is it that unless you are with someone you feel alone? "No man is an Island" comes to mind as I ask this question. Why are some people designed to desire company when they are alone, but after a while they just want peace and quiet. To find the balance of the two. To find happiness in the moment, and to look at each decision as an individual moment. You are not defined by what people say about you, you are defined by your actions. With that you should not overstress your decisions unless the decision process is warped. You will contemplate decisions but to decide before you create stress is the desired process. What inhibits people to share? What encourages people to share? It is not clear to share or not share is a rule. You must consider the factors, will not telling induce stress into yourself and lack of understanding in the person you are telling. Will it hurt someone that you tell or will it devastate the individual it is about if they find out about it from someone beside you? You should not be worried the aftermath in respect to the relationship or friendship with the person. You should trust they will see your situation and understand the motive of telling them. So ensure your motives are pure.

Appreciation, Parents, Goodbyes

You should always appreciate what you have. This becomes extremely hard when it appears you have nothing. You must look below the surface, beyond the moment. You must understand that it will not always be easy to see what is good in your life. But sometimes just after those periods, you will be reminded what you have in your life. Friends and Family are important and are not always constantly in your life especially if they have their own lives. You have to understand that they are part of your life and able to help out despite the lack of constant contact. If you live at home or you constantly call home, you have not fully let go of your parents. So you must understand this when the day comes you must say good bye for ever. You may have not fully developed your life outside your parents, so there will be a vacuum in your life. You will need to develop other portions in your life to fill your life. Home will no longer feel like home especially if you have not created a home besides that which your parents lived. If you did not have a strong bond with your siblings before you wont have it after. If you try to push it you may push them away because they may see it as trying to take the place of the parents. If you are the older then you are trying to be the parent. If you are the younger then, they may see you as putting them in the parents shoes. You must tread lightly. Work can not take the hole that was your parents. You must have somewhere to release the stress of work, just as work and friends take the stress out of family. Throwing yourself into work, will just worsen the situation. The stress of not having your parents added to the stress of work just means stress and no stress relief. Friends can be a long road or short road. Depending on the individuals involved it may take time to open up to each other. But others may open right up. It isn't necessary to have both fit each model to set the speed. It is whether they match up or not. You develop friendships and fill the hole, but you may feel that it a bandage and not filled. Only time will fill the hole whole. This may be extrapolated by the fact that you move and have to restart the friendships. You may think that you must find the person you will spend the rest of your life with, but as you try to find them, the harder it is. You may distract yourself but as you come back to the issue it will be harder to deal with. As time goes by it seems more and more likely you will never find that someone. The time behind draws out and the time in front of you shrinks. You must not worry about how much time you have in front of you, because no one knows truly till they draw their last breath. It takes time to find that someone and it will happen in time. So only time heals that hole. You will have good days and bad days. Just try to remember the good ones as you go through the bad ones.

Mistakes

“Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes." by Oscar Wilde. Everyone makes mistakes if you look at them as mistakes you doubt yourself. If you doubt yourself, you lack confidence and are more apt to make mistakes. If you look at it as experience, you will move on and correct your mistakes. As you move on you commit different mistakes till you are at the point of making few or no mistakes. You will always make more mistakes after the first, but different ones. You should always strive for better in essence make less mistakes. So mistakes, how do you correct mistakes if you do not understand how to correct the mistakes? You must first analyze the mistake and understand what the mistake is. Then you must list all possible causes. Take this list and understand the roots of these causes and then understand how to change these roots. Ensure that you never start down the path to make the mistake again. Once you have completed this you must ensure that you keep up your guard and ensure you don't revert to what you were doing. So you don't make the mistake again.

Sages True and False

So how many people claim to be sages that are true and are false? What is your image of sage? Can anyone know all the answers? Or is it simply they can puzzle out an answer to any question. Which is wiser? To invoke the thought process of the questioner to find the answer to the question. Or to give the answer to them. Is it simply the answer that is important or the knowledge to answer it? Does it matter how you figure out the answer? Full of questions on this subject not much certainity. But that is the heart of the discussion. Sometimes you don't know the question but you know the answer. And you have to figure out what the question is. In a life of questions are there ever enough answers. You must look inward to find the answers to your own questions. If you spend your days asking others you never learn yourself. Without knowledge of yourself, how do you teach your children anything. Knowledge has a cost like anything. If you buy something cheap, you may get a inferior product. Now there is a difference of cheap and inexpensive or bargain. You may learn from other people's mistakes and not make them yourself. So you have personally not paid a high price but You have not cheated the system to make it cheap. You merely used information from others and made your own decision. There is a difference between using someones elses thoughts to reaffirm your decisions and using their decisions as your own. If you choose to do the latter, it may lead to a point where you have no opinion and no concept of what you like and don't like. Sage is a person venerated for the possession of wisdom, judgment, and experience. Does the Sage know all his own answers or simply knows everyone elses answer? Would he answer the question with a question? The question I think would be "Who knows all the answers?" False Sages, people who exude confidence and abudance of wisdom, searching out people to progate their own propaganda, should be avioded. Their advice is tainted with desire and greed. They have their own agenda and you may never see it till it is too late. To sit upon a rock with the visage of snow capped mountains, and be at peace to be one with nature. To understand in the moment that their is no use for worries or anxiety. They will return but in the moment, just drink in the beauty. Feel the warmth of the sun warming you, feel the wind caressing your skin taking away the heat of the sun. In perfect balance you feel content, your breathing relaxed and you body at one with nature and the world. Try to find this moment in your life. Change the details but find the moment of balance.