Appreciation, Parents, Goodbyes

You should always appreciate what you have. This becomes extremely hard when it appears you have nothing. You must look below the surface, beyond the moment. You must understand that it will not always be easy to see what is good in your life. But sometimes just after those periods, you will be reminded what you have in your life. Friends and Family are important and are not always constantly in your life especially if they have their own lives. You have to understand that they are part of your life and able to help out despite the lack of constant contact. If you live at home or you constantly call home, you have not fully let go of your parents. So you must understand this when the day comes you must say good bye for ever. You may have not fully developed your life outside your parents, so there will be a vacuum in your life. You will need to develop other portions in your life to fill your life. Home will no longer feel like home especially if you have not created a home besides that which your parents lived. If you did not have a strong bond with your siblings before you wont have it after. If you try to push it you may push them away because they may see it as trying to take the place of the parents. If you are the older then you are trying to be the parent. If you are the younger then, they may see you as putting them in the parents shoes. You must tread lightly. Work can not take the hole that was your parents. You must have somewhere to release the stress of work, just as work and friends take the stress out of family. Throwing yourself into work, will just worsen the situation. The stress of not having your parents added to the stress of work just means stress and no stress relief. Friends can be a long road or short road. Depending on the individuals involved it may take time to open up to each other. But others may open right up. It isn't necessary to have both fit each model to set the speed. It is whether they match up or not. You develop friendships and fill the hole, but you may feel that it a bandage and not filled. Only time will fill the hole whole. This may be extrapolated by the fact that you move and have to restart the friendships. You may think that you must find the person you will spend the rest of your life with, but as you try to find them, the harder it is. You may distract yourself but as you come back to the issue it will be harder to deal with. As time goes by it seems more and more likely you will never find that someone. The time behind draws out and the time in front of you shrinks. You must not worry about how much time you have in front of you, because no one knows truly till they draw their last breath. It takes time to find that someone and it will happen in time. So only time heals that hole. You will have good days and bad days. Just try to remember the good ones as you go through the bad ones.